Wednesday, 8 December 2010

A Friend in Need Is a Friend Indeed. Or Is It?

I'm probably not the most agreeable person in this universe. I argue about everything and I am critical about everything including myself.

So, today I can't stop thinking about the saying 'A friend in need is a friend indeed'. According to The Phrase Finder, this is one of the phrases in the language that is interesting because there are various interpretations of the meaning. Firstly, is it 'a friend in need is a friend indeed' or 'a friend in need is a friend in deed'. Clearly, that would have a bearing on the meaning. The 'in need' is also open to interpretation - is it 'a friend (when you are) in need' or 'a friend (who is) in need'. If the former, then the phrase means: 'someone who helps you when you are in need is a true friend'. If the latter, it is 'someone who needs your help becomes especially friendly in order to obtain it'.

Well, there's always another side of the story and there are always two sides of a coin; heads and tail. But, what bugs me most about the saying is what happens next? What happens when the music stops? What happens when we are no longer in need of something? Are being friends mean just to share sob stories but not worthy to share happy endings? And what makes a true friend?

For me, a friend can take many forms. They can be those who remind you from making mistakes. Or those who criticize you with good intentions. We need these kinds of friends because we certainly do not want to go through life not knowing that we have a foam on our upper lip from the latte we had this morning. We need someone to tell us that we have dirt on our nose or we are wearing our shirt in reverse. We need them to whisper ‘Hey dude, your fly is open’. A true friend does exactly this. This is explained in the Quran in the chapter Time, verse 1-3:

By time, surely man is in loss. Except those who believe and do good and join together in mutual teaching of truth and of patience.

A true friend is also someone who recognizes our efforts, who takes into accounts what we did, even if it is something small or in another word, giving us supports no matter who or how different we may be. They are the ones with whom we share the tastiest and the worst food and eventually share the sweetest desserts, if you know what I mean. Besides, it's not always a favour asked, a favour returned. Most of the time, one ends up giving more than another but it's the warm thoughts and wishes that matters. With friendship, ego is put aside. So, friends, wherever you are, I wish you every happiness in life. See you soon, how close or how far you may be.

"A friend can be many things." (Fatma, 2010)

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